February 2012
2 posts
“‘Some people think only intellect counts: knowing how to solve problems,...”
– by Dean Koontz
Hallmark Greetings
Well it has been way too long since my last entry, but leave it to St. Valentine to prompt me to write. Today made me think of the first time I had an understanding of what Valentine’s Day meant in both a commercial and non-commercial sense.
There is of course the early days in grade school (at least in the USA) where it was common practice to go and purchase a pack of 4” x 2”...
November 2011
1 post
'I Like You . . . Just as You Are'
The title phrase will be familiar and synonymous with those who have seen the popular romantic comedy ‘Bridget Jone’s Diary’. However, no problem if you haven’t seen it. This entry is not about the movie, but the phrase.
It occurred to me that so many people I know struggle to find a good relationship. This is to the extent that s/he will remain in a bad relationship...
August 2011
1 post
Pick Me Up
From the of the hit t.v. show ‘How I Met Your Mother’, Barney Stinson is the master at ways to pick-up the ladies. Should you be at a loss for ideas, check out his Top 10 moves to use this weekend. I implore any single guy to try one of Barney’s characters on the list and let me know how it turns out. Happy hunting.
Share: Best pick-up move that worked for you?
July 2011
2 posts
Class vs. Trash
Most of my friends will have heard me use the line ‘class vs. trash’ in varying instances. As a person who promotes class over trash, I began to think about this in relation to attracting the right partner.
I wondered if someone is consistently attracted to dating ‘trashy’ individuals ending in a less than desirable relationship, then why do they keep returning to this...
Best T.O.D. for SEX
Ever wonder what time of day will best increase your chances of having the optimal sexual experience? Maybe for some that is just plain having sex with anyone at anytime should the opportunity arise. However, it may be helpful to know for future reference that your body functions on your own ‘built in’ biological rhythm across 24 hours that is capable of better sex at certain...
June 2011
4 posts
Screwed
This one I dedicate to the men in my life who found the bittersweet end of a cheating wife.
It may seem hard to think that women are the culprits of sexual deviance when so often it is the reversal that is depicted within most pop culture. Yet it happens - cheating bastards become cheating bitches. Of course before such harsh language is accepted and tolerated, let me tell the story of...
“If you knew your friend was being cheated on, would you tell? Why or why not?”
“Do you think living together helps or hurts the relationship? Have you known...”
April 2011
2 posts
Bi-Continent, not Bi-Sexual
So carrying on from the question - do long distance relationships work or are they too much work? You be the judge . . .
It was exactly 8 years ago that I took a trip to Morocco that changed my life. Most common question I get asked besides ‘what do I do?’ would be ‘how did you two meet?’. Many have heard the derailed fairy tale response to the latter, but for new...
Do long distance relationships work or too much...
March 2011
3 posts
'I Do' for now . . .
The one thing that both the married and divorced have in common is that s/he found some-‘one’ they share or shared a portion of their lives together with. I know that according to varying statistics, about 38% of those married will one day be divorced and of the divorced who re-marry, 57% will one day divorce again. Throw cohabitation in there prior to getting married and the...
First Break-Up Never Takes
He said he has changed . . . We talked over our issues and everything is great now . . . I know I can fix this . . . I miss him too much . . .
The list of excuses goes on and on. We have all done it despite our best attempts to make a clean break. What is it in our DNA that makes us think we can outsmart love in a relationship? Who really thinks that a break-up is merely just a break and...
February 2011
3 posts
“The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in...”
One Knight Stand
At the most popular US college town for Halloween (Ohio University in Athens, Ohio), the scene each year is indescribable as are the array of insane costumes on display. In attendance one year, one creative concept stood out above the rest for me. We were headed to the main street when I bumped into a gentleman in a homemade costume made of white cardboard that consisted of a square table that fit...
Queen of Hearts
I remember back in primary school being required to write out small Valentine’s Day cards for each kid in class to later post in the brown paper bag we individually decorated to pose as a mailbox for our annual Valentine’s Day party. We would each take our bag home filled with messages from so-called cupids, reading each card carefully, hoping are school boy crush was the one who...
January 2011
3 posts
More Than 'The One'
Wedding season in the southern hemisphere is in full swing with thousands of countless dollars being spent on one single day. The man losing his glorious bachelor days and the woman losing her ability to get free drinks at the bar. Priorities certainly do change when ‘I’ becomes ‘we’ and a transition that is sought after the world round to at least experience once if not 2,...
Lost and Found
While I have been out of the game for some time, the journey from single to committed is still the same. En route you lose a heap of items you once loved and some you never needed to begin with, but in the end you find what you have been missing all along. That said, I hope the following may help answer a question recently posed to me by a close friend who is single, ‘Where do you find...
FB - It's Not for Everyone
No, I am not referring to an acronym for Facebook, so fill in the gaps with whatever words you commonly like best. I am referring to the ever popular hook-up where we convince ourselves we can easily leave the ‘emotional’ component out and the ‘physical’ in. It can be as addictive as crack, but is it worth it? Doesn’t someone always get hurt or is it possible to have...
December 2010
4 posts
Why Are You Still Single?
So in this day and age for singletons constantly complain about being single and desire to find ‘the one’, let me state for the record that there is neither a man drought nor a women drought, just a load of individuals that fear commitment, make impractical choices or make excuses. This is not to be directed at those who keep putting themselves out there and may be on the receiving end...
Lost in Text-ation
So it is not bad enough that single women used to spend most of their time ranting the phrase ‘why hasn’t he called me yet?’ or asking friends for advice as to ‘when should I call him back?’ after meeting someone they really fancied, but now relationship beginnings have taken it one step further in what I find to be the wrong direction.
It was only a few months ago a friend of mine told me about...
Why Buy the Cow, When You Can Get the Milk for...
This common aphorism of the olden days is one still heard the world round and for good reason. Reason: Some people are reluctant to face the truth and lack self-respect.
Time and time again I see this happen and I can’t help but think you only have yourself to blame. Harsh but true. Prime example, a couple have been living together for the past 3 years (together 5 years total) with no...
“You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect...”
– Sam Keen