So it is not bad enough that single women used to spend most of their time ranting the phrase ‘why hasn’t he called me yet?’ or asking friends for advice as to ‘when should I call him back?’ after meeting someone they really fancied, but now relationship beginnings have taken it one step further in what I find to be the wrong direction.
It was only a few months ago a friend of mine told me about her latest conquest of men she found interesting. Unfortunately the entire courtship description was a compilation of text messages, i.e. At the bar he took my number . . . He text me . . . I text back . . . He text maybe free this evening for a drink . . . I text I am free tonight just let me know . . . He never text back . . . I text him the next day . . . He never text back . . . MIA.
Personally I had no sound advice to give in this instance, but all I could think in my mind is why did s/he not just pick up the phone to make concrete plans. Save oneself all the ambiguity encoded in text messages and all the moments of decoding what the message really means.
Everyone takes the chance of getting rejected or hurt when we first meet a person we find interesting, yet a chance always worth taking. However as with email and even this blog, we can misinterpret the message and feeling the text is trying to convey. That said, the shorter the text then greater the chance of misunderstanding the message and allowing our imaginations to run wild.
Regardless of your preference in calling or texting, I am a firm believer that if s/he did not get in touch with you, then s/he is just not that into you (another topic for another day) or subsequently has no balls. In the meantime, grow some, pay the .50+ cents and connect with a voice and dismiss one of the easiest, most cowardice ways out of any relationship, date or obligation – texting.
Side Note: We’ve all done it once, guilty as charged, but don’t condone it when it comes to people’s hopes of starting a new relationship. Technology is better than that and so are you. As always, communication is the key to any good relationship.
Supplemental Listening: ‘Texting Song’
Share: Your best line received via text whilst in a relationship.
